Do You Know your Emotional Intelligence Score?
What is your emotional intelligence score?
Do you know it? If not, would you like to? Are there benefits in knowing it? How can it help you? If you want the answers to these questions then keep reading to discover your emotional intelligence.
What exactly is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own, and other people’s emotions. Also, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately. They use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. – Wikipedia
The term first appeared in a 1964 paper by Michael Belch. However, it gained popularity in the 1995 book titled “Emotional Intelligence written by author, psychologist, and science journalist Daniel Goleman.
Decades of research have gone into emotional intelligence hence to show it as a critical factor that sets star performers beyond the rest.
Certainly, we all have some Emotional intelligence. Lucky for us it can be learned. Also you can increase your current level to achieve performance. It affects how we manage behavior, and navigate social complexities and helps make personal decisions. It is made up of four constructs that fall under two primary competencies.
- Personal competence is your self-awareness and self-management skills. It is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behavior and tendencies.
- Self-Awareness is your ability to read your emotions and recognize their impact while using your intuition or (gut feelings) to guide your decisions.
- Self-Management is your ability to control your emotions and impulses as you adapt to changing circumstances.
- Social competence is made up of your social awareness and relationship management skills. It is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior, and motives in order to improve the quality of your relationships.
- Social Awareness is your ability to sense, understand and react to others emotions.
- Relationship Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions and the others’ emotions to manage interactions successfully.
To obtain your emotional intelligence score you can take the quiz at
So, how can knowing your score help you? If you are not satisfied with your level, you can increase it where needed. There are many ways to do so.
Below are a few suggestions to change EI
How can this benefit you? If you begin to apply these into your daily life you will see a difference in yours and well as those around you. So, why not begin today?
- Be cheerful and smile
- Be relaxed because others don’t gravitate to hurried people
- Increase your self-worth, confidence
- Interact with others who are different than you. It makes you more versatile
- Don’t jump to negative conclusions
- Don’t personalize other’s behaviors
- Reduce fear of rejection
- Find ways to manage stress
- Be assertive when necessary but always respectful
- Don’t be reactive
- Increase ability to bounce back quickly from adversity
- Freely express intimate emotions in personal relationships
- Stay in touch with your feelings
- Make eye contact when speaking with others
- Don’t be a braggart
- Forgive yourself
- Forgive others
In conclusion, it’s really up to you. Are you satisfied with your emotional intelligence? If not begin to change it.
Recommended readings and websites:
Daniel Goleman, “Emotional Intelligence”
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