Holiday Tips to Relieve Stress
If you are suffering from grief many of you know the holiday season can be filled with stress and unrealistic demands that cause depletion of your energy. How do you avoid this happening to you? There are certain things that you can do that will alleviate some of the chaos. I will give you some tips here. They are not always easy but they are extremely important for you.
1) Remember it easy to indulge in too much alcohol and food due to the extra festivities or out of pure grief. Many people put on extra pounds and this causes them to be even more stressed. So the key is to be good to yourself. Go ahead and have a Christmas cookie or a holiday drink. It’s your right. It’s important to enjoy yourself, but love yourself enough by limiting your intake. Don’t go overboard.
2) This is a time for gift buying and if you need to do so start early so that you don’t feel you must rush at the last minute. If you don’t want to go out to the stores try online shopping. It’s the thought that is supposed to matter anyway!
3) This time of year adds many more activities to your normal schedule and they can overwhelm you. It’s important to set aside some quiet time for yourself. This will give you peace of mind and rejuvenate you for the next day.
4) If you are grieving it is important to be sure to spend time with people who know that you are in grief and who will validate your feelings.
5) If you must cook, bake, decorate or wrap presents then try to make the process as pleasant as possible. A couple of things you may want to try are to play some uplifting music, light a candle or invite a friend to help you.
6) If you are participating in a holiday gathering and something causes you to become upset it’s important to find support. If you can’t find someone to help at the gathering, then have someone’s number handy that you can call if you need to talk.
7) There are only so many hours in a day. You can’t do everything. Pick and choose the events that will bring you the most satisfaction. It’s OK not to do everything.
8) Help someone else if you can. Giving a gift or doing a kind act for someone is always uplifting to your own spirit and sense of well-being.
9) Take care of your body and spirit by doing some exercise every day, even if it is a 15-minute walk, this helps to release the endorphins and will keep your mind alert. Also take time to quiet your mind with meditation or yoga.
10) Last, but not least, if this is the first holiday without your loved one please be gentle with yourself. You will most likely experience emotions that you haven’t had before. Use this time to create new memories and new traditions that you can carry with you next season. Most importantly let others give you the gift of love and comfort.
In love and light,
Certified Grief/Life/Spiritual Coach, NLP and Reiki Practitioner