Do you know what Coaching is?
You have probably heard the word “Coaching” or know someone who is involved in it or considered getting some coaching yourself. But, you are unsure what it is so you haven’t tried it. It’s ok, it’s never too late! The most important thing is to be open and willing for new experiences to enter your life. Especially those that bring good into it. Coaching is not like psychotherapy which has traditionally scared people in the past and kept them from it. Coaching is different and not to be feared.
What exactly is coaching?
It’s a professional relationship that exists between a coach and a coachee. It aims to produce positive, if not extraordinary results in areas of the coachee’s life, such as in their relationships, careers and personal lives. Coaches partner with their clients to help them gain clarity on what that want to achieve. They work together to define goals and create plans for action. Throughout the process the client is accountable and begins to unlock his true potential to achieve the results he wants. Coaching is especially useful related to grief and you can read why I believe in it.
Is Coaching New?
Is the coaching concept new? No, not really, it has been around in various forms throughout history. Priests, rabbis, shamans, grandparents, and any other mentors have the capacity to function as a coach. When you think of coaches you probably think of athletes. If you are a tennis player Roger Federer probably pops into your mind or if a golfer, Tiger Woods. They didn’t achieve their success without their coaches. That’s because coaches were often hired for athletes and also in the business world. Coaching then took off into the private sector and made a big hit in the 1990’s. It’s an interesting history.
How is coaching different from psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy usually focuses on the client’s past and how it has impacted him/her in a present situation. They tend to focus on psychological dysfunction to help relieve emotional pain. The therapist is often viewed as the one who has the answers and believed to know what is right for the client.
Coaching, on the other hand is interested in the present and the future. It aims to discover the client’s strengths. It uncovers his or her life purpose and goals. Coaches work with clients to create possibilities for them to have a fulfilling life. This is exactly what someone needs who is suffering from grief. These ideas are based on the belief that all individuals are whole and capable of self-discovery.
Who’s the expert?
You feel that you are the expert on how to live our life, right? I won’t dispute it and nor does coaching. The problem is that some times your train derails and causes you to fall off your tracks. That’s when coaching helps!
In coaching, the assumption is the client is the expert. Thus, as a client you will learn to determine what is best for your life and a coach works with you to help you discover your true potential. It sounds exciting doesn’t it? Yes it does and it is powerful to tap into your own strengths that perhaps you never knew you existed. They were stuffed down from past experiences and probably went even deeper into the recesses of your mind after any unprocessed grief. It’s important to process your grief and get the help you need when you are in a stuck state. Learn if you are in one.
Does coaching work?
Yes, it does and therefore it continues to grow.
A 2014 Global Coaching Client Study conducted on behalf of the International Coach Federation found that of those individuals who had received coaching
80% saw improved self-confidence
73% saw improved relationships
72% saw improved communication skills
70% saw improved work performance
As a result, of those surveyed 96% said they would do it again.
I became a certified coach because I am a firm believer in the power of change, moving forward and transformation. I know that I personally can help those who have lost someone to suicide. How do I know? Because I have experienced a suicide loss. it was my husband and soulmate who died in 2005. I suffered shock after finding him dead on our basement floor and lived in a stuck state because of my own unprocessed grief. But then I started my journey to process it and it has transformed my life. I learned valuable tools along the way and want to share them with you. That is the reason I write books, blog, coach and teach.
Recovery takes time
It didn’t happen initially and my painful experiences and 12 years of working on my own recovery has made me an expert on grief and allowed me to help others.
It has become my life purpose and my goal is to help you on your journey so you can to find the peace and happiness you so deserve in your life. You are a beautiful creation and your life is meant to be lived in its grandest capacity.
I am a survivor
As a survivor myself, I know that the most important thing to do is to reach out for help and support. If you would like to start your journey of recovery and would like to work with me please don’t hesitate to contact me.
In conclusion, I would love the opportunity to help you unleash the power that is in you to learn to live a happy, fulfilled life after loss.
Certified Grief, Life, Spiritual Coach
Certified NLP Practitioner, Certified Reiki Practitioner