How do your thoughts affect you? What can you do about them?

How do your thoughts affect you?

thoughts affect you

Your thoughts affect you more than you know.  They have power and hold more of it than we are aware of.  I learned this the hard way.  But, it wasn’t until after my husband died by suicide in 2005 that I understood this.

The thoughts that ran loose in my mind were of self-destruction.  They took control and wanted me to think my life wasn’t worth living and had no meaning.  Incessantly they surfaced day in and day out.  They were hungry and I fed them with more of the same.  But, I didn’t realize that they erupted on an unconscious level.  The same thoughts of despair, guilt, and shame seemed to enter on auto-pilot.

Your thoughts affect you in various ways!

When we continue to nourish these poisonous thoughts we create a vicious harmful cycle.  It’s like an animal that thrives on them and we unconsciously give it what it needs.

We don’t understand that we have power to tame this beastly thing.  First, we must become aware that we are entertaining negative thoughts and that these can cause specific problem behaviors.  These can be lethal and hinder us on our journey of recovery or from seeking out our highest good.

I am thankful that I learned how to turn off those pestilent thoughts and create new healthy ones.

Our thoughts can affect us in positive ways as well.  I have created a simple awareness exercise for you in this video.  Many people don’t know what types of thoughts they hold in their mind.  They run around with gibberish in their heads because of chronic stress and it is hard for them to decipher their thoughts.  There are many ways to become cognizant of them.  But the first step is awareness.

Remember you don’t need to feel stuck where you are.  It is possible to change your thoughts and live and love life after loss.

If you would like to work with me on this process contact me through my website.

Love and Light,


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I am a woman on a journey of recovery after the suicide of my husband in 2005. It has been a long voyage, but I was able to create a new identity and find happiness again after much hard work. I hope that I can help you along this path, too.

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