Are Toxic People Dragging You Down?
Do you ever wonder if the people you spend your time with may be toxic to you? It’s a tough question to ask and often we don’t want to face our reality. But the truth is those friends or family may be toxic people dragging you down.
Do you know that you are the average of the five people with whom you most spend your time? Have you ever evaluated those people? Do you think they have an impact on you? Could they be affecting your mood?
Do you know how others affect you?
To determine this answer you must write down those five people and write down their traits. Are they optimistic or pessimistic? Is their fuse short and do they get angry easily? Do they generally tend to be negative or positive? Do they seem depressed more often than not? Are they full of energy or do they have low energy?
When you have a dream or a goal and share it with them, do they shut you down? Do they want you to succeed or secretly want you to fail? Are they set or stuck in their ways? Do they constantly play the role of victim and think that life has given them a bad rap?
Are their lives filled with drama and do they want to suck you into their lifetime movie? These type of people often live lives full of turbulence. Do you notice addictive qualities in them, such as drinking too much alcohol or overeating or gambling, relationships, sex etc?
Ask the hard questions!
Have you thought about these questions before? Well, if you want emotional health then these are questions that can’t be avoided. And the good news is you can determine who those people are by your answers. Read about emotional health here.
It’s not always easy to honestly answer them especially if they are people you work with, friends or family. But the truth is they do affect you and some need to be cut from your life. I know this scares many and you believe you can’t just eliminate them. But there will be some that you can choose not to spend time with. Others may not be so easy, such as family or co-workers. Although, once you become aware of their affect on you, you can let them know their behavior is dragging you down and you will no longer tolerate it. Often times your suggestion can bring about a positive change in them. This is a matter of setting up boundaries and too many times we fail to do so.
What it comes down to is really a matter of your health. It’s your emotional well-being at stake and you should be taking care of yourself. Do you really want to be surrounded by negative people or those who are toxic?
So, next time you are around those types of people evaluate how you feel and then answer the questions above about them. If you discover they are toxic begin to make some changes.
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