What is your story? - Robin Chodak

What is your story?

We all have stories. Your unique story began the day you were born.  Each experience in your life from the moment you took your first breath up to this instant creates your story.  I like to think of it as watching a movie.  I always watch ones with anticipation of what will transpire at the end.  My inner desire is that I am left with warm, happy feelings because it will have a good ending. But not all movies end that way.  Some have left me with despair and unanswered questions. 

Isn’t life just like that?

I prefer to watch movies with uplifting, positive endings.  Those types resonate with me.  They create emotions and feelings that I enjoy and want to hold onto, not those that make me cringe and avoid.

The reality is many life stories have bad endings just like the movies.  Yours may have too.  The movie I was in certainly did.  Mine happened in 2005 when my husband died by suicide.  I felt my movie had ended.  It meant my character had to die too.  I thought about it in my real life and came close several times. 

 But something changed.  I call it divine insight.  I realized that Steve’s death was a tragedy in my movie but my part in the movie hadn’t ended yet.  Therefore I could write an ending to my story, one that I wanted.  It certainly wouldn’t be tragic.   

Epiphany Happens!

The epiphany was that I held the same power that writers and Hollywood movie producers had.  If they could write a story to produce inspiration and hope to make a difference in someone’s life then I could too.  Certainly, with my own.

 So how did I do it? I made the decision that I wasn’t just “going to exist” but instead learn to live and “Love Life After Loss” and that is when my new movie started.  

I realized that I could take all my pain and suffering and turn it into a beautiful tale of triumph just as an oyster creates a beautiful pearl after dealing with it’s own pain for years. 

I understood my journey would be long with challenges, but I already saw the ending in sight. Therefore I kept moving forward to create a life of excellence.  It meant that I would find joy in the simple things in life and live with a new perspective; one filled with gratitude and expectancy of only good.

My movie is still playing at this moment.

The question I have for you is: who is writing your story?  Who have you given the power to create your movie?

You must understand that every choice you make will result in how your story unfolds.  Undoubtedly, your choices must be made with intentions of good for you and others.

 Your thoughts must always be in congruence with your beliefs.  And your beliefs can always be changed.  I changed my story and so can you and now I share mine to encourage your and others.  You can hear it in the video below. 

P.S. If you feel stuck I will help guide you on your journey and you will discover that everything you need is already within you.  You can learn to love your life after loss.  Start moving forward now. Click HERE to schedule your FREE consultation with me!

P.S.  I know some of you reading this have gone through your healing journey and feel that you are in a position to help others but don’t know where to start.  You are in the right place: Start here at the Grief Healing LLC where you can be trained to become a certified grief healing coach.

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Love and Light,

Robin Chodak

Certified Grief, Life and Spiritual coach, Certified NLP Master Practitioner, Certified Reiki Practitioner

Contact me through my website. http://robinchodak.com/coaching-sessions-robin-chodak/ 

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I am a woman on a journey of recovery after the suicide of my husband in 2005. It has been a long voyage, but I was able to create a new identity and find happiness again after much hard work. I hope that I can help you along this path, too.

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