Finding Meaning in death? - Robin Chodak

Finding Meaning in death?


Finding Meaning in death, what does it mean?

Finding meaning in death is hard for us.  Why?  Because we are all human and as humans we struggle to find meaning in death and especially tragic ones. After a loss we are looking for answers.  I lost my 20-yr-old sister to cancer, and two husbands suddenly without warning and I haven’t been able to understand the total “meaning” to those deaths from my limited perspective.  What I do know is that we must accept those things we have no control over or those things we cannot change.  Part of the journey of recovery is to do exactly that!  I believe there is always a greater force at work that creates meaning from chaos. 

For me at this time in my life and perhaps for you, it’s important to find meaning in death after being left without our loved ones.  This means we must find some purpose while we still exist in this physical realm.  How do you do it? You create a new identity and do things that bring meaning into your life.  You may not know where to begin.  I suggest you think about life as a big playground.  Feel like a child with curiosity and explore what’s in front of you.  The universe will present opportunities to you for your highest good.  But it’s up to you to seize those moments.


I believe synchronicity knows no bounds.  It continues to send you information for what you need in your life.  When you allow things to happen you are allowing your best to come to fruition.  After Steve died I allowed good to come and that is when I met Gerry and we married on 11/11/11.  Although not long enough with any of them, yet  blessed to have the years we spent together.  I believe there are more opportunities out there for me and you too!  The important thing is to not resist nor force them.   Take a deep breath, sit back and allow.  This is so much easier than force or resistance.  Think about love for a moment, you can’t force someone to love you, can you? And if you feel that you have love for someone, why do you resist?  Allowing in the answer.  Do this for all experiences in your life.

Searching for meaning in death

Understanding death can be a life long journey.  Some of you may be at peace with it and some still uncertain.  What you think about it can help you in your grief.  Open your mind to new ideas about the non-physical realm.  Science tells us that energy never dies, it is transformed.  Therefore your loved one still exists in some energetic form.  That may be a foreign idea to you, but let the idea come into your heart and mind.  We all are going to die at some point, so doesn’t it make sense to come to terms with it?  Or at the least begin to live each day as if it is your last.  I don’t mean in a narcissistic way, but it a way that brings happiness to yourself and to share your love with others.  Doing acts of service and showing kindness is one way to do it.

Many of you have been my clients and you have found meaning in death after your loved one passed.  You have come a long way, so pat yourself on the back for all the hard work you have done!

Your life is not over since your loved one has died.  You may feel it emotionally and that is when you must reach out for help to process your grief.   Feeling intense grief is normal because you have loved deeply.  But, you are not meant to live in continuous emotional pain. Choose to learn to love life after your loss.


I believe in the cliché that says, “Everyone comes into our life for a reason, season or a lifetime”.  I know everyone has come into mine for a reason.  In my mind, my husbands and sister didn’t stay long enough, but it wasn’t up to me.  For me, finding meaning in death is about acceptance and learning from each experience. I have learned about love, joy, and pain.  Each person came for the time they did to teach me. I have become a better person because of my time with each of them.  They have taught me to love this physical realm while I am still here!  I plan to live my purpose and enjoy it to the fullest and I hope you can too.

I want to say “thank you” for those of you reading this that have come into my life. You have come at the perfect time to help me on my journey! And I have also come to you at the right time.  You too will have someone come into yours at the perfect time.  So be open to it.  Allow it. Do not force or resist it. 

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Love and light,


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I am a woman on a journey of recovery after the suicide of my husband in 2005. It has been a long voyage, but I was able to create a new identity and find happiness again after much hard work. I hope that I can help you along this path, too.

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